Man and Woman is Not a Boss and Slave: Why Real Relationships Require Real Communication

 A Classroom Moment Worth Remembering

On June 15, 2025, something happened in class that stirred thoughts too important to ignore. Our class representative, after being wished a Happy Father’s Day, casually remarked that “ladies should be advised because when men talk, they also talk back.”

Tat was his version of humor or perhaps a quiet echo of a deeper, troubling belief. Thankfully, our instructor addressed it calmly and wisely: “That’s what we call communication. Otherwise, the man will feel bored.” And she was right, deeply right.

The Quiet Harm Behind the Joke

What’s concerning is not just the comment itself, but the mindset it reveals: a belief that when men speak, women should stay silent, suggest that, communication in a relationship should be one-sided and that, a woman speaking up is somehow inappropriate. But all these ideas are not just outdated but harmful to the health of families and societies at large.

Marriage Is Like Business Management

Let’s imagine a family structure as a business model. A language many of us can understand:

• The father is the CEO. The leader and visionary. 
• The mother is the manager or supervisor ensuring the systems work and people thrive.
• The children are the employees, learning, growing, and preparing to one day run businesses of their own. 

Now think: What CEO runs a successful company by ignoring the voice of the manager and suppressing the feedback of the employees?

A Smart CEO Listens

A smart business leader knows that while he may be the head, his success depends on collaboration. He listens to his managers because they are closest to the daily realities. He values his employees because their experiences, morale, and creativity affect the productivity and direction of the entire company.

If a CEO refuses to listen and simply commands without dialogue, he will eventually collapse his own enterprise. Not because he lacked power, but because he lacked wisdom.

A Mother’s Voice Is Management Wisdom

In a home, the mother is often the first to notice emotional shifts, educational needs, health concerns, or even spiritual changes in the household. She supervises the wellbeing of the home from inside-out. Her perspective is not optional, it is essential. So when her voice is silenced under the excuse of “submission,” what we’re doing is firing the manager in the middle of a growing business.

And what happens when a manager can’t speak? The employees stop speaking too. If a mother is constantly shut down, her children begin to learn that expression is a threat and silence is safety. Over time, they grow up unable to communicate in their relationships, their workplaces, and even with themselves and that, that is the most dangerous aspect or experience.

So ask yourself: What kind of future are we preparing when we raise children in homes where voices are muted and only one opinion rules?

Respect and Communication Are Strategic Assets

In any thriving business, the CEO and the manager meet regularly. They align goals. They assess challenges. They review what’s working and what’s not. They give each other feedback. This collaboration is not weakness, it’s strategy, a real one of course.

Likewise, in marriage, when a husband and wife talk with each other, they’re building a home strategy. One that’s sustainable, nurturing, and grounded in trust.

And let’s not forget: a CEO who listens to his team isn’t less respected. He’s more respected. His people feel valued, empowered, and invested in. So it is in the home.

Real Men Listen. Real Women Speak. Real Homes Grow.

We must move away from the shallow idea that a man loses his power when he listens, or that a woman becomes rebellious when she speaks. No. The man who listens is strong, because he seeks understanding before reacting. The woman who speaks is courageous, because she values truth more than comfort. The home that allows both to happen? That’s a home where children thrive and wise up.

Let’s Normalize This:

• A man who leads by listening, not lording.
• A woman who submits with strength, not silence. 
• Children who grow up understanding that their voice matters, because they saw their parents communicate with respect. 

Final Thoughts

A family is not a dictatorship. It is a living, breathing organization with vision, goals, and challenges. And just like in business, the greatest asset is people who feel heard and not silenced.

So to the men who believe leadership means silencing others: take a lesson from business. Powerful leadership involves communication. No CEO grows his company by ignoring his team.

And to the women: your voice matters. Not just for you, but for the generation growing under your care so speak up, but with calm and with respectful tone. Don't lose your voices to succumb. Because a family that talks together doesn’t just stay together, they grow together, just like a family eating together from the same dish, they are unified with strong bond.

Relationships aren’t built on control. They’re built on conversations. Not a boss and slave but a team. And that’s how homes and hearts thrive.